So, I recently heard a story that I just had to make a post about.
Someone I know was telling me how she ran into a girl that she went to high school with. This young lady is now a mother of FOUR and she is only TWENTY years old!! But wait it gets better...
This young mother then went on to ask her (she's also twenty), "How are you doing? How many kids do you have?" Now, PAUSE!
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies, since when has it become expected for us to have children, much less MULTIPLE children, by the time we graduate high school? Now don't get me wrong I completely understand that sometimes people slip up and things happen. There are a lot of young mothers out there who are doing their thing and I applaud them. But whatever happened to college after high school? Or beginning a career prior to having 3 or 4 kids? Is that no longer the norm? Am I now a statistic for NOT having kids? It really baffles me that someone who isn't even legal to drink, has more children than my own mother. I just don't understand. It just seems to be a never ending cycle.
Also, just because you have kids doesn't mean you can't go on to do great things. You don't have to settle for some dead end, 9 to 5 job and that's all you make of your life. If you REALLY want something, you'll make it happen any way possible. I see young mothers who still manage to go on to college all the time, but not as much as there could be. Having children isn't an excuse for not furthering your education. If anything it should be a motivation. I'm not at all trying to pass judgment on anyone, but there are so many things out there that can be achieved, why not go for it?
Ladies I think we need to do better for ourselves and set a better an example for the children we have or plan to have. We wouldn't want them settling for anything less than greatness, so why should we?
These are just my sentiments.
What do you think?
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That's like beyond crazy..
ReplyDeleteI do agree that some people are using it as a new 'career choice' but what they fail to realize is that having so much kids at such a young age isn't helping them at all and won't really help them in the long run. It's actually hindering them.
A girl I knew from Middle School saw me in Walmart last week and asked me what I was doing now. I told her I was going to graduate from college and head off to law school soon. Her response was that she's been waaay too busy with her three children & boyfriend to think about doing anything else with her life.
ReplyDeleteI just couldn't understand why she (and so many other women) is okay living that way. I told her to keep her head up and to think about going back to school when she can...which was pretty much all I could do.